Inclusive Language – again

I’ve been meaning to come back to the inclusive language question for the last couple of weeks and say something about it, but what to say at this point?

The story so far: after a great deal of shilly-shallying, one of the Scottish Episcopal Church’s liturgies has been given a few alternative texts which replace phrases which when intending to refer to people now do so using language that is inclusive of both men and women instead of simply referring to men or “mankind”. For example, in one of the prayers, we can now say, “which is your will for all the world” rather than “which is your will for all mankind.”

Oh, I know that some people react to this with the phrase, “political correctness gone mad” and refuse to think things through but to me its just a matter of politeness. Its rude to make people feel left out by using language which does not include their personhood and experience. I think that is a matter of etiquette at least as much as a matter of theology.

So far, so uncontroversial. (Well, almost, some people don’t like change and will get grumpety when it happens regardless).

The changes went a little futher than that though by allowing some changes to the way we refer to God. So, for example, we can now say, “…and peace to God’s people on earth” rather than “…and peace to his people on earth”.

When I looked through the changes I found that we had been using a number of them at St Mary’s for years and those other changes which have now brought in have come about without anyone saying anything. They have been entirely without controversy here, which is more or less as one might expect.

But what a furore this caused. Newspapers around the world led on “Scottish Episcopal Church declares that God is no longer male” (here’s the Telegraph article) despite the fact that we had not said such a thing nor said that God was male in the first place. It was all over the press and blogs like a rash.

Then came a statement on the SEC Website which I presume was written by the Primus saying that we were not changing the way the Church understands God.

It seems to me that if you move from a position of always referring to God in male-dominated language to something more subtle which does not treat God as necessarily male then you are indeed saying something about the fact that the church’s way of understanding and talking about God is developing. That seems to me to be both interesting and potentially full of good things. Do any of us think that our language encapsulates God. The idea of a God held hostage by our inadequate pronouns seems very far from whatever I’ve understood by God in the past.

Malcolm Round made a brave attempt to declare that God was in fact male and particularly that the Holy Spirit is male but I’m not convinced. One would think from the way he writes about it that none of us knew that some of the language for the Spirit in the Hebrew Bible uses words are grammatically female and always were. Malcolm also associates femaleness with gentleness. I’m not that sure my sisters would want to go all the way with that analogy.

I’m surprised that our bishops chose to make these changes by decree rather than going through a synodical process whereby we could talk about these things and come to something of a common mind about it. I agree with the changes but would rather have taken a bit longer and got more people on board. This very clearly changes the Church’s understanding of God and that’s a good news story not something to be shy of.

Now, what use of exclusive language is getting my goat and causes me to huff and puff whenever I hear it right now?

Its not gendered language at all. It is the phrase “family doctor” which seems to be constantly in use on the news and at the Tory party conference.

I don’t have a family doctor. I have a GP.

(GP = General Practitioner – for all our readers from furth of these shores).

Comments

52 responses to “Inclusive Language – again”

  1. Tim Avatar

    Agreed on all counts. I was particularly peeved with that reactionary denial-of-change news item – seems completely false to me. I find the idea of insisting on God as “he” completely outmoded.

    Well spotted, that `family __’ is exclusive to those not in families, even if not a gendered term. It also feels like an outmoded throw-back to the coal-fire days of the Victorian era.

  2. Tony Avatar
    Tony

    Do pronouns indicate gender? Is a French bicycle female? (and is that word anyway, non gender specific ?) I thought James Barr had knocked that on the head years ago. And is referring to the Almighty as God the same as referring to ‘it’ using a pronoun? And is referring God’s will for the ‘world’ the same as referring to humankind? I think there is a difference, even if very subtle.

    I’m not against inclusive language, but I don’t think that all the implications are properly thought through.

    I take your point about family doctors, but I do wish the Church would stop referring to itself as ‘the church family!’

    1. kelvin Avatar

      Thanks for the comments. St Mary’s is not a church in which you hear people speak of the Church Family and that is deliberate.

      Stewart – insisting that language is correct when someone feels offended and excluded by it is the problem not the solution.

    2. kelvin Avatar

      Just backing up to Tony’s previous comment, I think that the world is not the same as humankind though each would work for me in this phrase from the liturgy. Poetics matter though and I think world works best here.

      Regarding French bicycles, all I can say is that James Barr is not the only French feminist commenting on what pronouns do to the way we think.

  3. Stewart Avatar

    Everyone is in a family, this term is inclusive.

    We all have parents / grandparents. Many of use have siblings and cousins. There are many who have partners (recognised by civil ceromonies, religious ceremonies or none). There are some who have the privilege and responsibility of bring new life into the world.

    All these come within the definition of family.

    Wikipedia has an article on the family.

    Dictionary.com has 15 definitions of what a family is

    Whether you live alone or with others, you are part of a family – so I maintain that family is an inclusive term, with any perception of exclusivity being related to selectively concentrating on a single part of the definition.

  4. fr dougal Avatar
    fr dougal

    The media certainly made an utter hash by entirely misrepresenting us: these are permitted alternatives, not mandatory. If you want to continue to use traditonal language rather than the more gender neutral options then you can. I also agree utterly about the medics: in this instance the Tory Party are using “family friendly” language to mollify their core supporters who are alarmed at the loss of universal child benefit. And whilst it is true that everyone is part of a biological family (even those whose father was a test tube), it isn’t necessarily helpful to insist that the Church is primarily a family. If you live alone, the continual harping on about family and kiddies can be intensely irritating and alienating. A variety of metaphors for the nature of the Church is actually a good thing!

    1. kelvin Avatar

      I’ve learned over the years that if a church uses the F word on its noticeboard then I’m unlikely to feel welcomed. Indeed, its quite likely that some kinds of families won’t be welcomed either. I confidently maintain that church should be for everyone.

      I don’t entirely agree with John about the media. We could easily have got very good coverage on this story had those who had decreed change been up for coming out and talking positively about it. Its not entirely fair to blame the journalists.

  5. ryan Avatar
    ryan

    ‘Family Values’ very much is, and always has been, code for anti-gay rhetoric. Certainly one can understand people making a point of reclaiming the term (contrary to e.g. Section’s 28’s denunciation of ‘pretend’ family relationships), but, until such reclamation is achieved, I’d agree that it’s wrong to use language that offends and excludes irrespective of the intention behind a particular word.

  6. Stewart Avatar

    Kelvin – taking your response to its conclusion means that because people do not understand language / mis-interpret (intentionally or un-intentionally) means that we can end up totally skewing the meaning of our language. If there is a perception of exclusion due to an lack of understanding of meaning, then surely education of the excluded is the appropriate response, rather than changing the language.

    And yes – there are many words which change meanings over the years, and in youth culture words are use partly to exclude elders or other not in the same social circle.

    Some word which have changed their meaning in recent years include – wicked, cool, gay, hot…….. I am sure that your readers can add many others. Surely we should not stop using they for fear of excluding others who have a different understanding of them. The answer is to ensure that revised or multiple meanings are understood by those who feel excluded.

    1. kelvin Avatar

      No Stewart – offering to re-educate people does not make them feel included.

      The answer is not to persist in using language which one already knows can be misunderstood and sometimes offensive, but to use language that includes everyone. As I said, its not theology, its a matter of politeness and trying not to be rude to other people.

  7. Stewart Avatar

    Kelvin – I disagree with you.

    Going back to the original comment about family – the term is inclusive and the perceived exculsion is leading us to see exclusion where none exists.

    This worries me more than areas where genuine exclusion exists.

    1. kelvin Avatar

      No, Stewart, family is not inclusive when applied to doctors because all kinds of people have to go to doctors who don’t live in families, don’t want to be defined by family language and don’t feel included by the word. (The fact that someone else in very similar circumstances does not feel this makes not a blind bit of difference).

      There’s a perfectly good alternative – “GP”.

      Its worth remembering that my doctor does not want to be called a family doctor – I’m pretty sure he is happy being my GP. In the context I’ve been hearing the term this week, its been used by the right-wing press and the right-wing Tory party. These two constituencies have an agenda and it is not one I like.

  8. Coxy Avatar
    Coxy

    Personally I am not against the ‘humankind’ (or similar) replacements – “For us and our salvation” etc. But Jesus called God Father – Abba – Daddy. And Jesus, ascended to the Father’s right hand, remains male. So we should not be afraid of and should continue to call our heavenly Father exactly that, and our brother Jesus “Him”.

    As for ‘family’. I hear and realise that many people have been hurt by the use of this word. But I hope and believe that its true meaning could be redeemed and that all who love Jesus as their Lord and Saviour could experience the joy of being members together of His family.

    1. kelvin Avatar

      I really don’t want to be a member of God’s family, Nick. (And generally speaking, I like my family).

      1. kelvin Avatar

        Oh and by the way, Nick, I’m happy enough recognising that Jesus was male. In his human nature he clearly was male. However, as we know from the doctrine classes which we so loved, the church through the ages has confidently claimed the paradox that there were two natures involved, one human and the other divine. I’m far less sure that the divine nature is definitively, exclusively and absolutely male in the way that I understand the human one to be.

        I’m also not entirely sure that Jesus’s relationship with the One he called “Abba” is necessarily the same as my relationship with God. How could it possibly be?

    2. Zam Walker Avatar
      Zam Walker

      When I was studying Hebrew the rabbi taking the class pointed out that Jesus, in referring to God as ‘Abba’, was using a term that an adult uses of their parent – intimate but much more equal than we might have traditionally thought. And it is the intimacy that is important, not the gender.

      And with regard to the debate on family I would refer to the passage where Jesus states that those who do the will of god are his mother and brothers and sisters. I am one of those who would happily reclaim ‘family’ for church. My blood family could keep EastEnders going in storylines for months and there has been little contact nor care. Jesus summarised it for me, saying that it is by care not blood that family is defined.

      I would agree that ‘family service’ is not a great term. For me it indicates a lack of intellectual depth and a lowest common denominator approach.

  9. stew Avatar
    stew

    I suppose some people might find the ‘family’ imagery helpful without ever meaning to, or realising that it might, offend anybody. Should we regret the loss of this usefulness, if we nevertheless together decide that it is exclusive language? This is the first time I have thought about this, and it has never occurred to me before but now I can see how it might be unhelpful and offensive.

    Your point about making decisions through discussion vs decree is interesting. Is the ideal way to ask around and try to see if there are any people who are offended by a language use and outlaw it, or do we together have a conversation to decide whether it is reasonable to suppose someone may be offended, or does there need to be some kind of set criteria that would provide for the rejection of a language-use even if most people didn’t mind it, e.g. possibly in the ‘family’ case? You said that St Mary’s is not a church in which you hear people speak of the Church Family and that is deliberate. The use of ‘deliberate’ implies a kind of decree or design but how do would you deal in a situation if the consensus was around Stewart’s views mentioned above – would you allow people to use it?

    1. kelvin Avatar

      Thanks Stew – that’s an interesting question. I’ve no doubt that there are folk at St Mary’s who take Stewart’s view – not least because Stewart is one of them! However, I think that church cultures develop around language and ours is currently such that we are not in the habit of hearing family used as a metaphor for the household of faith and it kind of jars when you do hear it.

      There was also quite a good debate around inclusion issues within the Vestry which originally appointed me here. It was clear then that they were hoping for someone to help take a lead with an agenda which has debates around inclusion at its centre. We don’t print the words, “open, inclusive and welcoming” on every bit of paper here without trying to live up to those words somehow. Like most slogans and mission statements, that is aspirational rather than a statement that we’ve already arrived.

      Incidently, I find it odd that often it is those who are most keen to think of themselves as “Biblical Christians” (presumably distinct from the rest of us whom they presume not to be) who use the F word most in reference to the church and yet its not a particularly Biblical metaphor. I can’t think that Jesus uses it much. The NRSV has only one such use in the gospels and that is in Matthew 25. “Truly I tell you, just as you did it to one of the least of these who are members of my family…” – but that is just because the translators are rightly squeamish about the more literal “these my brothers”.

      I do encourage people to bend over backwards to use language which will not leave people feeling left out and I suspect that the dominant linguistic usage at St Mary’s has developed because I’m not the first person to do so. That doesn’t mean that we get it right all the time but we do try.

      We also try not to sing hymns with obviously exclusive language. There are tiny number of exceptions to this. “Dear Lord and Father of mankind” is still sung here because I don’t think as a community we could bear to lose it. However, that is a pragmatic decision rather than a dogmatic one!

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