What is in Kelvin's Head?

Healthy Relationships

27/11/2014

Here’s the second video with Marion Chatterley from Waverley Care – take a look:

marion chatterley #2 – healthy relationships.movie from Kelvin Holdsworth on Vimeo.

In this one we focus on what healthy and unhealthy relationships look like.

We talk about why hidden relationships are common in church communities and how that puts people at risk.

Then we go on to talk about how healthy relationships are messy but that they are celebrating both people as holistic beings. That includes allowing people to be sexual and spiritual beings.

Along the way, we spoke about whether or not there is just one true love out there for a person. Again we pick up on dating apps and talk about what people are really looking for when using them. Why do church leaders have so much to say about marriage and so little to say about dating apps?

We relate this to the big changes we made to the marriage liturgy in the Scottish Episcopal Church a few years ago.

And then I ask Marion whether she just think anything goes.

Take a look at the video – comments and questions welcome.

AIDS, HIV, the one, unhealthy relationships

10 responses to “Yesterday”

David

18/02/2008

Just to say the link to the BBC website is broken.

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asphodeline

18/02/2008

The Sunday morning service on R4 is my regular church for now and it was brilliant to find it was with you yesterday.

Loved the service and the music, as always, was wonderful.

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kelvin

18/02/2008

Thanks for the comments – the link is fixed now.

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Andrew

18/02/2008

Lovely to know that Bernard Porter is still about. One of the kindliest and most tolerant musicians this ex-tv producer ever worked with. He provided superb accompaniment to at least 4 major choral programmes, and an exuberant and beautifully played Voluntary in Holy Trinity, Ayr- in 1973. I can still hear it in my head.
Thanks, Kelvin for a happy reminder.

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Victoria

18/02/2008

Just wanted to say how much I enjoyed listening to the service on BBC 4 on Sunday – meaty stuff with good quality music. Was pleasant listening when normally just want to reach for the ‘off’ button. But then I’m biased going to a SEC church myself with social justice and ecumenical concern at its centre and being a choral singer!

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Harry Monroe

19/02/2008

What a wonderful tribute to a real gentleman. Sang under him over 30 years ago at Diocesan Festivals. Minimum criticism and maximum praise seemed to be his maxim…. something we could all use as a way of life.

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Tom Allen

21/02/2008

Interesting review of Sunday morning here:
http://irenelancaster.typepad.com/my_weblog/2008/02/the-bbcs-even-h.html
from the increasingly fantasy driven adviser on Jewish theology to the Archbishop of Canterbury!

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Jay Vos

22/02/2008

Yes! I’m over in Vermont USA. Ain’t internet grand? It was to listen to the internet broadcast on R4. Thanks.

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Kenny

22/02/2008

So sorry I missed “BJ’s” do! I remember traipsing round Scotland with him and the choir, singing in all seven main cathedrals in 18 hours! Boy did we have stamina then!

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Dr. Irene Lancaster

26/02/2008

Hi, Tom! Glad to see that you haven’t changed. The fantasy is, as ever, all in your head! Although I’d be very pleased to take on this auspicious role at Lambeth Palace, as far as I know they have no plans to take on such a person as you suggest – for the present at least. All a figment of the imagination, then!!

I’m also terribly sad to have to inform you that I’ve just been invited to talk on the subject of my blog (to which you’ve kindly directed bloggers) at one of Britain’s most distinguished universities in the next few days (alas, not in Scotland, although I have lectured before now at Edinburgh).

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