• Love means love – a sermon for Midnight Mass 2018

    It was the middle of the night. It was dark – the night black as pitch beyond the cold bright lights which shone in our faces. And it was surprisingly cold.

    Crossing the border should have been easy.

    But they made us all get off the train and queue up to have our passports stamped.

    September 2018 and I was trying to leave the EU.

    Not for long mind. Just a week’s holiday in Istanbul and to get there, a bit of an adventure on a night train across the border.

    Which led me to be standing there in the middle of the night whilst a guard checked my passport and then my visa. And then gestured me to one side.

    “In there” he said gruffly.

    And I found myself in a small room with a guard wearing no uniform or identification badge being interrogated, in the middle of the night.

    A small room. My passport taken away. My visa taken away. All my belongings on the train which was due to move off at any moment. And here, I was being interrogated in the middle of the night.

    This is not a particularly unusual thing for some members of this congregation who have come from places of danger to live in relative safety in this country. But a new experience for me.

    A few questions about where I was going, where I was staying. Who I would be meeting. When would I be leaving.

    Then he asked to see my phone.

    “Open up!” he barked. “Let me see pictures”.

    And so he went through the last 2 and  half years of photographs on my phone. Pics I’d taken of friends and all the photographs of me that facebook had saved to my phone.

    “What this?” he roared. “What these”.

    It was pictures of me dressed head to toe in gold. Or green. Or purple. Or red.  Standing here. Celebrating. Preaching.

    “What you do!”

    “Well, I’m a priest”

    “We don’t need no priests in our country. We don’t need no preachers here!”

    And I said, “…..

    Well, let’s leave what I said for another time and fast forward.

    Fast forward a couple of days and I find myself standing in an old church in a seldom visited quarter of Istanbul.

    Around me are pictures. Mosaics. Frescos. Gold and glitz. And the frescos tell familiar stories.

    An elaborate one shows a bunch of tax collectors turning up in Nazareth and telling a young woman that she and her man need to go off and be registered in their home town.

    Another one next to it shows a familiar story – the same young woman clearly expecting a child riding a donkey led towards Bethlehem by Joseph – gentle, patient and maybe worried about what they will find when they get there.

    Picture after picture. Mosaic after mosaic. Fresco after fresco.

    Each one preaching forth the story that we are familiar with and which draws each of us here tonight for some reason or another.

    The story of the One who gave up heaven and took up residence on earth.

    The story of the Lord of eternity coming among us and accepting for a short lifetime all the constraints of time and place, pain and particularity.

    The story of one who comes to share the story of heaven by sharing the stories of earth.

    And as I stood and gazed at the glorious pictures all around me I realised that plenty of preachers had been there before me. Some of them no doubt preaching sermons and some preaching all I ever want to be able to say with nothing but pigment and paintbrush.

    For God comes into this world tonight. And we bear witness to the birth at midnight. In a world which needs the light of the world to shine.

    But back to that challenge at the border on another dark, cold night.

    What about that suggestion that there’s no need for preachers.

    I beg to differ.

    This world needs more preachers. Needs you to be preachers.

    This world needs those who will hear the song of the angels singing peace on earth and preach it to the nations.

    This world needs those who will see the refugee family fleeing from Bethlehem and who will preach to the Herods of our own day who seek to build a hostile environment instead of proclaiming what is forever just – that those who flee for their life as refugees should be always welcome.

    The world needs those who will see the tenderness of our blessed Lady towards our blessed Lord – the child in the manger and who will preach the beauty and the passion and the commitment of that love to every soul who is vulnerable. Preach not just with paintpot and pigment but with politics and passion too.

    We are living through strange times in this land.

    We are living out the inane reality of the absurd declaration that Brexit means Brexit.

    There is far more to be said than that.

    For our Blessed Lady – no mean preacher herself told us, there are the humble and the meek to exalt and those of us who love this child in the manger have a job to do making sure that those as vulnerable as he was are kept in mind through whatever political uproar occupies us.

    There are those who are hungry who need to be filled. And filled by those who take their place at the manger in adoration, who are inspired to set others free with imaginations set alight by what they find in the crib.

    And there are inane tyrants to be mocked. For God will bring down the mighty from their seat and it is our privilege and joy to delight in their fall.

    Brexit may mean Brexit. Whatever that means.

    Leave may mean leave. Even though no-one seems able to define what that looks like in a way that we will all agree on.

    But this night we celebrate something altogether more profound and the antidote to the inanity that we find all around us.

    God comes into the world not to show us that leave means leave but to tell us once and for all that love means love.

    Love means love.

    Laid in a manger.

    Here for you and here for me.

    Love for you and love for me.

    And the world does need preachers from every tribe and tongue to share this good news:

    Love is come into the world. Love enough for everyone.

    In the name of the father and of the son and of the holy spirit. Amen.

11 responses to “A Form of Benediction for Married Persons”

  1. Rosemary Hannah Avatar
    Rosemary Hannah

    If it is proof reading you have got ‘those who are to be married’ p 13 when the liturgy earlier told us they were married. Same p 15.

    As to the situation – plainly it is nuts. I assume it is a softly softly approach designed so that in fifteen years time somebody can say ‘But we have been marrying people in all but name for fifteen years, and nobody has ever objected’ – the not wholly unreasonable belief being that people tend to just-come-round to things. Not wholly unreasonable as this appears to have happened in British society. It takes no account of the difficulties and miseries these fifteen years will cause. Largely because they will not be caused to those formulating the policies, I imagine. And because many of those involved are, in fact, of the generation which has most struggled with the (to me) blindingly obvious that gender is irrelevant to love. That marriage is aobut love, and not gender roles (and women are not subservient in society) (which is what those who actually do believe that marriage is only for the straight all seem to me to believe).

    1. Kelvin Avatar

      Thanks Rosemary. That’s exactly the kind of correction I need. I’ve amended the document.

      I think the worry about waiting for 15 years before finding that we’ve been doing this all along is that vast numbers of people are presuming the church to be poisonous simply because they hear a public message which is that church isn’t for you if you have decent views about gay people.

  2. Kelvin Avatar

    Anyone wanting to see the Scottish Episcopal Church’s actual marriage liturgy to see how completely and utterly different, oh its so different you wouldn’t believe it, you really won’t be able to comprehend how different, it is from what is posted above can find it here:
    http://scotland.anglican.org/index.php/liturgy/liturgy/marriage_liturgy_2007/

  3. Marnie Barrell Avatar
    Marnie Barrell

    I’m puzzled by this expression in one of the prayers – never heard the word.
    “Together we now handsel them.”

    1. Kelvin Holdsworth Avatar

      Check out the notes in the marriage liturgy. It is an old Scots word.

  4. Rosemary Hannah Avatar
    Rosemary Hannah

    Oh yes, I quite agree it it a poisonous situation. But ‘all’ it causes is slow death. People believe that is inevitable (I do not, but they do) and they can face that. What they cannot face is a row. Others in their faces saying things which they have to reply to.

    At least, I assume that is the reason for delay, for the policy of attrition. If anybody can thing of anything else, do tell me.

    Handsel – gift or positive good wish given at the start of an enterprise, or at a significant stage upon it, to wish it well upon its way. Scots word.

  5. Rosemary Hannah Avatar
    Rosemary Hannah

    I am afraid both working for managed decline and the idea that loving somebody of one’s own gender is in any inferior are both ideas which I have no sympathy with or understanding of. We all have out limitations.

  6. Rosemary Hannah Avatar
    Rosemary Hannah

    ‘in any way inferior’ sorry.

  7. Bro David Avatar
    Bro David

    The US or Canada would be a great Honey Moon destination and the happy couple could easily find a number of Anglican parishes in either nation where they could celebrate their wedding nuptials in style!

    1. Kelvin Holdsworth Avatar
      Kelvin Holdsworth

      The possibility of doing things in style has never been in doubt.

  8. Alan McManus Avatar

    Bro David that’s a welcome suggestion. Also welcome is the offer of a good friend on many of us at St Marys who is a minister of the United Presbyterian Church of America (apologies if not exact title) who is now legally and ecclesiastically empowered to conduct marriages between any two persons and intends to do so here in Scotland. Methinks that all this silly shilly shallying about may come to an end when the powers that be realise that where there’s a calenderfull of nuptials there’s noodles of cash. And what church will say no to a sizeable contribution to the roof or organ fund?

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