• Synod Review – things you might have missed

    Here’s a quick review of some of the most significant things that took place at the recent General Synod of the Scottish Episcopal Church beyond the headline grabbing news that we rejected the Anglican Covenant.

    • I was heartened to hear a bishop call for an anti-bullying policy. My first “maiden” speech at General Synod, many years ago was about the bullying that I perceived to be being exercised during my training both towards ordinands and amongst members of staff. All those years ago there was a spat about whether such a speech should even be recorded in the minutes. (In the end it was not recorded accurately and I voted against the adoption of the minutes the following year). This year, Bishop Nigel gave a very clear call for a policy to deal with situations of bullying in church circles. It was good to hear and comes not before time.
    • I think another significant moment was when one of the Bishops referred to having social events for “clergy and their spouses or partners”. Synod heard this news with nonchalant ease, wondering, I suspect what kind of wine and nibbles were served. Yet it is a significant small mercy that a Scottish Bishop can refer so easily to inviting gay clergy and their partners around to Bishop’s House for something so eye-wateringly, mind-bogglingly conventional as a Friday night social with a quiz. It is by such small mercies that great social change happens. It was one of the moments when the sky did not fall in and indeed, no-one seemed to have noticed that there was any risk that it might do so.
    • It was good to hear the Primus robustly respond to some of the things that were being said in the debate about ministry. There were calls for more non-stipendiaries working “not in the parish but in the world” and also for us to focus on those who have “life-experience” to be sought for ministry and not those coming “straight from college who know nothing about the world”. The Primus was having none of it and reminded the synod in no uncertain terms that those entering the ministry late in life often need a great deal of help coping with an institution which is greatly unlike other work places. He also asked where our leadership and future bishops were going to come from if we ended up not having life-long ministries as a key part of the way in which the church functions. Personally, I found the ministry debate one of the more depressing parts of they synod – the usual tired voices arguing for their same pet projects. There did not seem to be much life there.
    • The rather disappointing launch of the rather disappointing new Grosvenor Essay about same-sex relationships. Disappointing because we were not able to discuss it at all. Disappointing too because the authors appeared to have consulted theologians, historians, scientists – everyone in fact except gay couples living in same-sex relationships or indeed LGBTQ identified theologians. It wouldn’t be acceptable to discuss disabled people in an essay without engaging with disabled people. It wouldn’t be acceptable to write about women and the church without engaging with women. I’m pleased that the Doctrine Committee are looking into this area but it seems a terribly disappointing methodology. I asked a question about this but didn’t really feel I got a very good answer. More heartening was an assurance from an Evangelical chum who takes a different view on such things to me that he thought it was a very good question to ask and that it was obvious that those being written about in such an essay needed to be engaged with.
    • It was obvious that the Bishops generally seem to be getting on with one another. That hasn’t always been the case and I know that they will have their stresses and strains beyond the public gaze. There was quite a lot of knock about comedy which can be a little trying after a while and makes it very difficult to have a real debate about some things that matter. For example, we heard, in a way we couldn’t argue with, of churches using the Reserved Sacrament in a way that I think irregular and which I suspect breaches the agreed bishops’ guidelines. Yet this was in a very jolly comedy routine by bishops. There may be a danger in people thinking that they can justify any behaviour at all in the church if they happen to be in Episcopal orders and uttering the words “Whole Church Mission and Ministry Policy”. We are back to the question of the limits of diversity and the appropriate extent of conformity really. We always are.
    • I found some of the claims being made for a renewed diaconate in a new discussion paper that was launched rather disappointing. It is entirely appropriate that the diaconate is discussed, but I do wish we had a moratorium on people making the claim that a particular form of ministry will in some way renew the church because that form of ministry has a particular, vital (and oddly ill-defined) relation to mission. One has heard over the years the same claims being made for lay ministry, local collaborative ministry, lay reader ministry, ministers in secular employment, authorised lay ministry, etc. It isn’t merely silly; it makes talking about mission (which is a rather interesting idea of introducing people to the God so that they encounter love, joy, grace and transformation in a way that they couldn’t otherwise) all seem rather boring.
    • Isaac Poobalan made an urgent request that we take the statistics more seriously. I backed that up with the suggestion that the statistics (and a report interpreting them) be received each year at Synod. For some of our dioceses they are rather encouraging really. Moray and Argyll, for example. For other parts of the church they are cause for real concern.
    • The mood of the Synod this year was generally contented. There was not much friction. We needed Synod to be like that so we could throw the Covenant out convincingly, decisively and overwhelmingly. The Covenant doesn’t represent the kind of church we are. A year ago, many were surprised that there was no support for the Covenant when we had our discussion groups. A couple of years ago it was presumed we would probably sign up and that the vote would be fairly narrow and very bad-tempered. In the end it was neither. It was good to see the Bishops generally voting with the other houses in voting it out. So very different to the Episcopal and Synodical life of a neighbouring Province…

    What else? Anyone else who was there want to contribute? Anyone who wasn’t there want to comment or ask anything?

9 responses to “The Episcopal Way of Death”

  1. Rosemary Hannah Avatar
    Rosemary Hannah

    The greatest privilege I have ever had in the service of the people of the church was to be the person who received the coffin the night before the funeral and led Compline then. The church was on an island, and the coffins those of people I loved and honoured. It was deeply moving for everybody there. I hope one day that will be done for me and mine.

  2. Sr Alison Joy Avatar
    Sr Alison Joy

    I have prayed washed and dressed Sisters who have died and it helped me to see that death is not scary. I have lined a number of Sisters graves with flowers around the inner edge from the inside, also helpful. The body was received at Vespers in Chapel the day before, Solemn Requiem was the next day complete with asperges and incense. We returned from the graveside and when in Chapel sung a very joyful favorite hymn for the Sister we had just buried. It was always a sad, happy, remembering occasion I hope that I will be able to have most of this too.

  3. Sarah Lawton Avatar
    Sarah Lawton

    This is beautifully said.

    When my parents died in a car crash, we knew our Episcopal church would be too small to accommodate all the mourners; but the local Roman Catholic congregation saw our need and graciously offered the use of their space for our Episcopal funeral (including Eucharist led by two Episcopal bishops). They also offered their pall for the second coffin as we had only one. All the churches and the synagogue in town offered choir members and/or food for the feast after the service. An ecumenical, indeed, interfaith foretaste of heaven!

    We placed the two bodies in closed coffins in our Episcopal church the night before; we prayed Evensong and Compline, and received a long line of visitors; and then parishioners kept vigil with the bodies all night. In the morning we prayed over the bodies before beginning the procession to the larger RC church where the (Episcopal) funeral was to be held. In this sad, glorious service sang many, many Easter hymns, and I learned that it’s possible to sing and sing even through tears. I’m told that people reconciled that day who had not spoken in years – I’ve heard it from both parties (one now a bishop).

    All of which is to say: our Episcopal Way of Death can be a profound grace if we let it. It can be profound too when it’s a simple, small, quiet service for a person who has lived a long life and died of old age (unlike my parents). It’s the same words, the same truth of loss – all of us pass through this life but for a moment – the same mystery, the same words of affirmation and hope at the grave: alleluia, alleluia, alleluia.

    1. Kelvin Avatar

      Thank you for posting that – bearing witness to exactly what I was trying to say.

    2. Michael Povey Avatar
      Michael Povey

      Thanks Sarah. (Other readers, Sarah is a friend. I was at the Funeral and heard her offer the most profound Gospel Centred and Honest Grief eulogy I have ever heard)

      1. Sarah Lawton Avatar
        Sarah Lawton

        Dear Michael, thank you for saying that. Your presence that day was a blessing to our family. That gathering, for all the shock and sadness, really did feel like a foretaste of heaven, didn’t it? A great cloud of witnesses singing with us.

  4. Ronnie Smith Avatar

    Having attended a few funerals in our parish recently – one of them for our Vicar, who died on Easter Eve – and being nearer to the grave myself (at 85 and still active as a priest) I appreciate, Father Kelvin, the care you take over this special subject. The Church can be so close to families at this special time – giving them a taste of ‘The great love of God as revealed in the Son’ – precious at this time.

  5. Tony Whatmough Avatar
    Tony Whatmough

    There are sometimes good reasons for having the cremation first, as there was for my brother yesterday especially with people traveling and wanting to be able to bury the ashes on the same day. They key is to talk with the family about what they are looking for and how it can be done.

    1. Kelvin Avatar

      Dear Tony, I’m sorry to hear that you’ve lost your brother. May be rest in peace and rise in glory.

      There are always reasons why people want to have a cremation first and people always believe that they are good reasons. Every single time there are reasons. My contention is that I’m unpersuaded that any of them justify changing what we believe. (What we do and what we believe being utterly bound up with one another in such circumstances).

      My point about funerals is very precisely that the wishes of the family are important but that no tradition will survive if we simply abandon what we believe for reasons of convenience.

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